Tag: simplicity

Happiness and the Pursuit of Work

“I’m just looking for what’ll make me happy Dad,” she said with impatience. Dad had paid for his almost thirty-year-old daughter’s last year of grad school (unfinished), watched her leave one job, then another (finished, finished), until a holding pattern seemed to be setting in, without work or school.

“You don’t get to do that yet,” he blurted. Daughter was similarly built to Dad – that apple not falling far from the tree thing – and he had also not finished college before moving from one job to the next with some regularity. One stint did turn into a 25-year career and growing experience until he noticed one day he had the financial security to say goodbye to the working world.

Well, he thought he was retiring from Work, but the reality is we need to do it our whole lives. Defined as the “activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result,” is it work if done in the pursuit of happiness?

I’ve learned the answer is uncategorically Yes, we need to work for and even fight for our happiness …and even though it may look different for each of us, it’s achievement somehow involves making peace with Money, Health and Love. Think about whether that balancing act is a life-long assignment or not!

A combination of:

  1. lucky breaks
  2. good choices, and
  3. putting in the time

seemed responsible for this dad’s ability to retire early, but I suspect now that all three of those things were just different kinds of work. And then the task of finding happiness in the other areas of his life began in earnest. With two divorces behind him, what does success in love look like? The effort to understand what makes the people in his life tick – and then respect it – continues. Good health had even been a bit out of reach. Being given the genes of an 80-year-old dad will do that. So, coming into his 60’s, life was good because he could sleep as much as he needed and loved, whatever time of the day. Simple pleasures are such happiness …but he worked for it.

…so what do you think of the two Happiness quotes I found? If finding happiness in your life looks different, I invite you to comment, follow my blog, and listen to the Ask Rita podcasts for new perspectives on age-old questions.

Agent

“Uhhh, I think I’m your agent,” I said, grasping for some definition of the tasks that were falling to me. And then everything made perfect sense for each of us. The “Why L.A.?” became “of course, L.A.” because where else would a holistic healer have an agent? Then the relationship suddenly had all the right words to define it: Collaboration, Autonomy, Expertise.

As Rita Harrison’s client and student, I knew the Willow System in such a way that I could represent it authentically and passionately. And because Rita and her methodologies aim to and do deliver “optimally,” I had the confidence, competence, and clarity (yes, more about the Power of 3 later) to move into my soul purpose. Ok, let’s say that again. Needless to say, it’s been an interesting road to finding that happiness thing, especially when I’ve sought it from others most of my life.

So I reclaimed the business experience (leaving behind the stuff that had put old ventures into indebtedness), corporate and institutional familiarity (without the non-constructive contempt), and a mother’s multi-tasking and juggling skills (that had lost their sense of purpose with kids grown and off on their own paths). What transformed all of that turned out to be remarkably simple (which doesn’t mean ‘easy’ by any means).

It happened that a reading by Connie Viveros crystalized it beautifully with images so lush I couldn’t speak as I received them. Don’t forget, I now say to myself: Toss a joy for living – tears and all – into the magician’s hat and one by one, all I need to create my new life will be provided one white dove at a time.