It’s real because we’ve made it so: Crazy California. We’re pioneers, thinkers outside-of- the-box, and dreamers who have escaped comfort to commit to an adventure. Flip-side, we’re fabulously busy just being busy, flaky beyond decency, and more sick and tired than healthy and happy. The more refined assessment from the outside world: Northern Californians Fake Real, Southern Californians Real Fake.
I’m a born-and-raised San Franciscan who three weeks ago piled necessities and niceties into the reliable old Accord, and floored it down the 5 to resettle in L.A. (County) for…time undetermined. I’m actually in Long Beach, but that reveal so takes the edge off my adventure. A 93-mph speeding ticket further sobered me up and brought my high-flying escape down to earth.
In the Bay Area, they say there aren’t many of us natives still around, but I think it’s that we just lay low. Many of us are actually firmly planted, prisoners of our homes and family holdings. By accident of birth to American-dreamer parents and outrageous property values, we have an affluence and sense of having made it just by having stayed in the fold. If we were immigrants previously marginalized, we are now the entrenched establishment, landlords holding down the fort against invading renters.
What’s more, as a wanderer by nature, the city so much of a magnet to wanderers had become a crab bucket to me. When you are part of a tribe, you are supported when you stay, and for your own good, pulled back in when you wander off. There was also something disquieting in the collective. I couldn’t put my finger on it, although the Fake Real thing was beginning to seem less name-calling, maybe even truth-telling.
Don’t get me wrong. This may feel like a battle of North and South, California and Everywhere Else I’m setting up here, but it’s truly an attempt at non-judgmental musings. It’s a new age – Aquarius – and a blog makes that possible. Stay tuned.
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